The link you gave shows any kind of birth control is prohibited. It is not like we don't want to have a family but we just don't want it right now. Maybe after a year iA. Do you have any other resources about delaying child birth? — Anonymous
I had one in mind but cant find it at the moment unfortunately.
Assalamualaikum, At times I find myself uncomfortable doing good deeds (or enjoining good & forbidding evil) in front of others. I give the excuse to myself saying I'm trying to avoid riya. But deep down i know it's because I'm a little too shy to practice certain aspects of the deen in front of others. I would not define my self as religious. Before doing a deed, I feel people would point out that Im not fully religious and might point out the bad i have done or used to do. Pls advice me sis. — Anonymous
Its shaytan that causes doubts in our hearts. He makes us second guess ourselves.
Look, something is always better than nothing. It will make people view you differently. It will make you be a wannabe in their eyes perhaps, or even worse. My bestest friend in the whole wide world went through the same thing these past couple of years and subhanAllah she rose from the pile of mud everyone stomped all over. It wasn’t that bad but yes, it was bad. She dealt with it though and she made her position clear Alhamdullilah in front of everyone. People questioned her all the time- “oh you don’t do that?” “Oh, since when do you do that?” and all of that junk and she’s like well “I got back to my senses and I’m taking things on step by step.” SubhanAllah she is a different person now. One by one she is adopting better practices and she is changing. It doesn’t happen overnight, nor can you expect it to. I mean, I’ve known her for … 8ish years? I love her so much more now fisabilillah and I’ve seen her grow and I have so much more respect for her.
There were friends she lost along the way. There were parties or gatherings she didn’t go to anymore (not like clubbing or whatnot mind you). There were people she no longer chose to hang out with. But Allah subhanwata’ala guarded her through this and she has never felt alienated or alone. She glows now.
You have to start. You have take the baby steps and let the weirdness just go away. Have tawakkul. Know that Alah subhan wa ta’ala will help you when you have set yourself out to obey Him. He wouldn’t abandon His slave. That is not why He created you.
Salaam Alaykum, I was considering niqab because I wanted to focus on Allah. There's so much fitnah with the guys and everything and I just want to be left alone to focus on Allah and build my relationship with Him. I want to get away from fitnah for the sake of Allah; it makes me feel closer to Him. This is not about the brothers. Devoting my life to Him.. That's what this is about. But sometimes I wonder if there's other ways to do that without wearing the niqab bc of the societal pressures — Anonymous
(Same anon) but I really loved your response. Thank you for the help, May Allahreward you :).
It looks like you have your answer then? There are no buts. You just have to prioritize. Pressures are always going to be there sweetie. I’d be lying if I had said otherwise.
For me, it just makes me feel like there is something always protecting me. Its so much better than anyone else’s approval or any pleasure I may get out of compliments or whatever. :) <3
AssalamaAlaykum. What is the ruling of using contraceptives? Condoms? Pills? I have heard pills are harmful for women is it true? xx — Anonymous
Hope this helps:
Contraceptive pills: uhh.. putting in any drugs into your body to mess up with your hormones has got to be harmful to your body. So that applies to pills, patches, IUDs and all that.
Salamalekum. A message for the anon who talked about breaking down from desire for companionship: Seek refuge in Allah swt, sister. He knows what you're going through, and He is not testing you beyond your capacity. Never forget that. Talk to Him, tell him that you don't question His wisdom and know He's testing you in this way for a reason, but ask Him to help you out of this in the most beautiful way, in a way that only He can, that's best for your deen and duniya. Much love. You're not alone. — Anonymous
Asalamaualikum sister. I would like to talk about the question the sister asked about craving male attention. Like her, I am very modest in the way I behave and the way I dress. but I am 21 + in college. Sometimes I feel like I can't breathe. sometimes i burst into tears. i dont want to do haram things but i crave someone to say i look pretty or even to ask me out. is that so wrong? Im not ready to get married. but does that mean I have feel so empty until I do? — Anonymous
I’m sorry for responding so late. But unfortunately, I don’t even remember what that was like anymore. I did go through it though. Its just how you feel. We need attention and when we go crazy deprived, we try to go about it the wrong ways.
You don’t have to feel empty- you just have to hold out for a bit and pray that Allah grants you a solution. Yes, having someone there is great and all but you also have to remember the demand that having someone brings on to yourself so you just need to pray to Allah to change your situation. In the meantime, keep yourself busy and occupied with the right kind of people.
I’m sorry I can’t be of more help.
Once you get this, share 5 random facts about yourself, then pass this onto 10 of your favorite followers! — modestlypretty
- I don’t want to go to Pakistan even when I want to
- This morning, before fajr- I snapped at someone. something I haven’t done in forever
- I come off as very “judgemental” but it means that the wrong kind of people avoid me themselves.
- One time, I was hovering in the air for like 4 second because of how strong the wind was.
- I have a thing for vegetables cooked the brown way that just makes me forget about meat.
Once you get this, share 5 random facts about yourself, then pass this onto 10 of your favorite followers! — ummhafsati
haha Haven’t gotten these in a while eh..
- I’m turning 21 in less than a month in sha Allah
- 2013 was the first year since my early teenage years where I gained more than like 2lbs a year. lol
- Where I am, its pretty much -40C already.
- I can’t stand the smell of tea. the regular tea ie.
- my favourite flower in the whole wide world is a chambeli. :P It smells like all my dreams from lala land wrapped into a tiny little bud. Also, I have no idea what its called in english
as salaam alaikum what is loving someone for the sake of Allah and not loving someone for the sake of Allah? — Anonymous
im sorry i responded so late. i have answered this question two years ago apparently and i think it should suffice for now:
i would add that you are far more forgiving, you don’t hold gruddges and you always strive for the other person’s jannah alongside your own. when they give you a hard time, you do your best and expect a reward with Allah rather than walking away. its a completely different relationship than that built on mutual compatibility or whatever. lol
Assalamu alaykum, sister in faith. I just want to ask if there's any ruling with regards to subscribing to phone (postpaid) plans within a specific period of time (i.e. 1 year, 2 years, etc). Is it permissible? — Anonymous
considering all of our utilities and bills are postpaid, we should’ve heard if it weren’t halal (given that you get what you can pay for) but AllahuAlam. i don’t know